Consider the following scenarios and see if you can relate:
Diane is single and in her early 40s. Her greatest fear is that she will never marry. Although she had a string of unhealthy relationships when she was younger, she can't help but feel that God is punishing her now by not letting her enjoy her life with someone who will treat her well. What do I have to do so God will give me another chance? she asked me recently.
Melissa is frustrated that she can't get pregnant. But beyond that is a deeper fear that God is still mad at her for a rash decision she made 10 years earlier. Maybe I will never be able to get pregnant because I terminated the one pregnancy I did have! Perhaps God will make me pay for that the rest of my life, she expressed to me, through tears.